Have you ever found yourself staring into space and dreaming about sexual desires that live outside of the complacent bounds of the bedroom? If you answered yes, then you’re in the right place. Sexual fantasies are perfectly normal and can vary from tame to outlandish. When it comes to sexual fantasies, they don’t discriminate against sexual orientation, gender, relationship status, and pronouns - but for everyone involved to have fun, they must be explored safely. Most importantly, any form of sexual contact must be consensual, and the same goes for trying out your deepest fantasies. Throughout this article, we will discuss a range of sexual fantasies alongside how to go about safely exploring them.
Why Do People Fantasize?
The truth is, there are many reasons why people fantasize and sometimes they can’t be explained. The most popular reason why people fantasise, according to Psychology Today, is sexual arousal - which makes sense when you think about it. Other popular reasons include escaping from reality, boredom, feeling in control, and curiosity.
Although there is no singular reason, Dr Justin Lehmiller suggests that sexual fantasies are connected to our emotional needs. For example, he states that, “if you fantasize about threesomes, you could have abandonment issues”. However, it’s not an exact science and people enjoy what they enjoy - sometimes without a deep-rooted reason. No matter what your reasons, let’s take a look at some different fantasies and how they can be explored safely.
Voyeurism is quite simply getting aroused by watching others naked or engaging in sexual contact. If you’ve ever masturbated whilst watching pornography, this is technically voyeurism. It’s most likely one of the most easily achievable fantasies of all times. With the internet at your disposal, you can access hundreds of UK sex cams. Even before the internet, there was adult entertainment showing cam girls on the TV.
When someone thinks about getting aroused watching someone naked or having sex, they often think about it as a creepy taboo. This is where consent comes into play. For example, if you want to watch your partner pleasing themselves, taking a shower, or whatever else, then make sure you have communicated your desires and gained prior consent - that way you can have a lot of fun with it.
Threesomes and Moresomes
One of the most prevalent sexual desires is threesomes and group sex. There are so many reasons why people want to experience sexual contact with multiple people. You may be a bisexual in a heterosexual relationship and want to experience the flip side with your partner. Also, you might just find the thought of being used by more people a turn on. We could go on forever about the reasons why, but we’d be here all day. If you head over to this blog post from Babestation, you can find out more about threesomes and other sexual fantasies. Further, you can access a range of Babestation cams guaranteed to satisfy the voyeurist within.
The idea is to have fun, but all parties involved need to be on the same page. Again, consent and communication are key - all parties involved need to consent and set some ground rules to ensure everyone is comfortable.
Domination and Submission
This is an area that has boomed in popularity over recent years and is fast becoming less taboo, probably owing to the 50 Shades of Grey series and its glamorisation of BDSM (Bondage, Dominance, Submission, Sadomasochism). You may already know if you prefer to be more dominating or submissive in the bedroom, and there’s nothing wrong with exploring that deeper.
There are a lot of considerations to take before engaging in BDSM. You need to feel comfortable with everyone and develop mutual trust, everybody needs to consent, and it’s a good idea to lay boundaries and come up with a safe word.
Going It Alone?
Some people enjoy sexual encounters with strangers or ‘no strings sex’, which can fulfil sexual desires but comes with a range of safety issues that other forms of sex don’t. There are numerous sites and apps out there that are built for males, females, straight, bisexual, and gay - no matter what your preference you can easily get online, talk to others, and arrange a mutual meet.
When you’re meeting up with a stranger, it’s always a good idea to let someone else know where you’ve gone, just in the unfortunate event that something goes wrong. We all know what a catfish is, so make sure that you meet them in a public place first so you can scope them out. Alternatively, consider going to a sex party, which offers a safe environment for people to meet up and engage in sexual activities.
Although the thought might be arousing, be warned that not only is sex outdoors illegal, but potential passers-by have not consented to enter into a sexual situation. That being said, it’s an extremely popular fantasy that gets people’s adrenaline pumping and heightens their senses.
There are things you can do to stay safe and minimise the risks of being caught in a sticky situation. If you have a garden, you could consider having sex there - as long as you are completely out of sight from neighbours’ windows. Alternatively, you could consider taking a raunchy camping trip - you can make out in the comfort of your tent to your heart’s content - you may not be completely outside, but it is close enough.
Having sexual fantasies is 100% normal and everyone has them on some level or other. There are a lot of different fantasies and anyone can share the same desires for completely different reasons - but ultimately it comes down to being sexually aroused. Although there is no end to sexual fantasies, there is one thing in common that makes experimentation safe and fun. You need to ensure that there is mutual consent, boundaries are set, safe words are discussed where applicable, and somebody knows where you are if you’re meeting a stranger. Now, all that is left to do is explore your sexual desires and start communicating openly with other people.